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  As wonderful as this inclination of spending more time with your child is, it’s an important step in the journey of strengthening a mother-daughter bond. As women take greater participation in our society, the skill of multitasking and managing priorities come in handy. Working mothers make great role models for their children. When the kids see the way their mothers are proficiently balancing both their personal and professional lives, they tend to become acclimated to their environment, becoming more independent and better at adjustments in the long run. With respect to your query, here are some easy ways in which you can enjoy and balance this transition with your family happily:-

• Prioritize your time according to your child’s needs

• Once you get back from the office, spend as much quality time as possible with your child and pay undivided attention to her

• Share your daily experiences and reflect on them with your child

• Plan different activities with your child, preferably something of your child’s interest on your off-days and weekends, it can be going out for picnic or as simple as cooking and eating your favourite meal together 

• Use the weekends to bond with her through different playtime activities

• Choose activities that involve only the two of you, to give you a chance to bond over something that only the two of you share
• Make sure to give your daughter a call everyday from the office so you are in touch with her throughout the day
• Plan different surprises for her, indoors or outdoors, sound excited when you speak with her 

• Your husband can capture and share all the sweet moments of your daughter so that you do not miss out on anything 

• I do understand the guilt that you may be feeling due to the societal norms but please understand you are going to be a role model for your daughter, she loves you for who you are and don’t repent for doing your job, something that is very much a part of you and that makes you happy! 

While there is no right or wrong here, it is you who decides what makes you happy and brings you mental peace, as at the end of the day you can only spread happiness and love when you love yourself for being who you are, and never forget you are the one who your daughter will look upto as she grows up.

Young children are impulsive and cannot anticipate the consequences of their actions. As parents, we can be supportive by modeling the behavior we want to see, such as kindness, sharing, working with others, being polite, and showing empathy toward others. This last item is especially important, because until about 6 to 7 years of age, they are incapable of thinking about how others feel. Modeling this emotion will help prepare the pathway for empathy to develop. 

Self-control is an important component of self-esteeem. There are ways to develop self control in young children, for example, by setting up daily routine such as getting ready for school and going to bed. These small expectations help children regulate themselves. Instructions that are short and to the point with frequent reminders allow children the opportunity to succeed.

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Do you think your child might have ADHD? Here’s how to recognize the signs and symptoms—and get the help you need.

What is ADHD or ADD?

It’s normal for children to occasionally forget their homework, daydream during class, act without thinking, or get fidgety at the dinner table. But inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity are also signs of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), sometimes known as attention deficit disorder or ADD.

ADHD is a common neurodevelopmental disorder that typically appears in early childhood, usually before the age of seven. ADHD makes it difficult for children to inhibit their spontaneous responses—responses that can involve everything from movement to speech to attentiveness. We all know kids who can’t sit still, who never seem to listen, who don’t follow instructions no matter how clearly you present them, or who blurt out inappropriate comments at inappropriate times. Sometimes these children are labeled as troublemakers, or criticized for being lazy and undisciplined. However, they may have ADHD.

Is it normal kid behavior or is it ADHD?

It can be difficult to distinguish between ADHD and normal “kid behavior.” If you spot just a few signs, or the symptoms appear only in some situations, it’s probably not ADHD. On the other hand, if your child shows a number of ADHD signs and symptoms that are present across all situations—at home, at school, and at play—it’s time to take a closer look.

Life with a child with ADHD can be frustrating and overwhelming, but as a parent there is a lot you can do to help control symptoms, overcome daily challenges, and bring greater calm to your family.

What does ADHD look like?

When many people think of attention deficit disorder, they picture an out-of-control kid in constant motion, bouncing off the walls and disrupting everyone around. But the reality is much more complex. Some children with ADHD are hyperactive, while others sit quietly—with their attention miles away. Some put too much focus on a task and have trouble shifting it to something else. Others are only mildly inattentive, but overly impulsive.

The signs and symptoms a child with attention deficit disorder has depend on which characteristics predominate.

Children with ADHD may be:

• Inattentive, but not hyperactive or impulsive.
• Hyperactive and impulsive, but able to pay attention.
• Inattentive, hyperactive, and impulsive (the most common form of ADHD).

Children who only have inattentive symptoms of ADHD are often overlooked, since they’re not disruptive. However, the symptoms of inattention have consequences: getting in hot water with parents and teachers for not following directions; underperforming in school; or clashing with other kids over not playing by the rules.

Spotting ADHD at different ages

Because we expect very young children to be easily distractible and hyperactive, it’s the impulsive behaviors—the dangerous climb, the blurted insult—that often stand out in preschoolers with ADHD. By age four or five, though, most children have learned how to pay attention to others, to sit quietly when instructed to, and not to say everything that pops into their heads. So by the time children reach school age, those with ADHD stand out in all three behaviors: inattentiveness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity.

Inattentiveness signs and symptoms of ADHD

It isn’t that children with ADHD can’t pay attention: when they’re doing things they enjoy or hearing about topics in which they’re interested, they have no trouble focusing and staying on task. But when the task is repetitive or boring, they quickly tune out.

Staying on track is another common problem. Children with ADHD often bounce from task to task without completing any of them, or skip necessary steps in procedures. Organizing their schoolwork and their time is harder for them than it is for most children. Kids with ADHD also have trouble concentrating if there are things going on around them; they usually need a calm, quiet environment in order to stay focused.

Symptoms of inattention in children:

• Has trouble staying focused; is easily distracted or gets bored with a task before it’s completed
• Appears not to listen when spoken to
• Has difficulty remembering things and following instructions; doesn’t pay attention to details or makes careless mistakes
• Has trouble staying organized, planning ahead, and finishing projects
• Frequently loses or misplaces homework, books, toys, or other items

Hyperactivity signs and symptoms of ADHD

The most obvious sign of ADHD is hyperactivity. While many children are naturally quite active, kids with hyperactive symptoms of attention deficit disorder are always moving. They may try to do several things at once, bouncing around from one activity to the next. Even when forced to sit still, which can be very difficult for them, their foot is tapping, their leg is shaking, or their fingers are drumming.

Symptoms of hyperactivity in children:

1. Constantly fidgets and squirms
2. Has difficulty sitting still, playing quietly, or relaxing
3. Moves around constantly, often runs or climbs inappropriately
4. Talks excessively
5. May have a quick temper or “short fuse”

Impulsive signs and symptoms of ADHD

The impulsivity of children with ADHD can cause problems with self-control. Because they censor themselves less than other kids do, they’ll interrupt conversations, invade other people’s space, ask irrelevant questions in class, make tactless observations, and ask overly personal questions. Instructions like, “Be patient” and “Just wait a little while” are twice as hard for children with ADHD to follow as they are for other youngsters.

Children with impulsive signs and symptoms of ADHD also tend to be moody and to overreact emotionally. As a result, others may start to view the child as disrespectful, weird, or needy.

Symptoms of impulsivity in children:

• Acts without thinking
• Guesses, rather than taking time to solve a problem or blurts out answers in class without waiting to be called on or hear the whole question
• Intrudes on other people’s conversations or games
• Often interrupts others; says the wrong thing at the wrong time
• Inability to keep powerful emotions in check, resulting in angry outbursts or temper tantrums.

It’s really difficult for new parents to get along with their new born, their cry, feeding, cleaning up, constant anxiety of keeping them safe, and so on. We sometimes get feedup, cleaning and making them asleep. As parents we feel mercy towards that tiny think which totally depend on us.

It is far more difficult for a new parent, parent who never been in to a situation where he have to deal with a kid, it’s a rear case somehow we all play with some others kid but when it come to our own, Omg! It’s lot more scary, not gradual acceptance.

I am talking about those brave and strong Mom and Dad who accept children’s along with there loved once, they are really strong after knowing each and every bit they accepting those tiny little naughty humans. Don’t think it’s easy on them, not at all. They have to check on, that they are doing good enough to maintain peace and balance between there family life……

My mom always made clear that household work will be shared with my younger brother and me, every weekend other children’s were playing outside me and my younger brother use to clean the whole two store villa, me was 10 n my brother was 9. Relatives used to tell my mom it’s not good to make kids work and so on, but my mom never cared and she always teach both of us share the work and complete it. Today when we both are grown up, he is my good friend we share a real good bond more than any siblings can. Now also wen we go our home we have same habit that we make sure our home is clean we help each other n he help his wife and household activities, which I think is a very good habit. I never seen him humiliating women instead he is really humble person.

It is really important to raise your girls to fight gender norms, strive for equality and most of all, follow their dreams. However, it is also important to extend the same courtesy when parenting little boys. You need to invest some time steering your sons in the correct direction if you want them to tune out the sexism prevalent in society.

While raising a feminist son is definitely not easy, there are certain things you can teach your boy to change his perception of the women gender. Remember that it is important to practice what you preach for life lessons that actually last a lifetime.

1. No compliments for doing household work

Do you take pride if your son contributes to the household chores and praise him incessantly for the same? Maybe it is time you stopped swooning when men chip in to help in the chores that are essentially considered a woman’s responsibility. From cooking, cleaning to even taking care of little siblings, remind your son that no role is gender-specific. They do not need praise or compliment for doing household work which is essentially considered feminine.If you are guilty of assigning tasks like cooking and cleaning to your daughter and mowing the lawn to your son, maybe it is time to switch things a bit. Send your son to grocery shopping and let your daughter wash the car. It is important to teach your sons that gender has nothing to do with household chores.